Dear Little Buddy,
There are some things I want to talk to you about. You may be a little young to understand now, but one day you will be old enough to understand.
It's been a rough week in our country. You've probably noticed that Mommy's eyes have been teary after I've watched the news and that Mommy's hugs have been little bit longer, a little bit tighter. A few things have happened that are very scary to Mommies and Daddies everywhere. The first is that last weekend, a man chose to do a very terrible thing and he hurt a lot of people. As you know, it is not nice to hurt other people. Many people are very sad and very mad and very confused. We just can't figure out why someone would do something so terrible. I'm sure that man's mommy doesn't know why he did something so terrible. And I know that the families of the people he hurt are wondering the same thing.
One of the people that was hurt was a little girl, a few years older than you are now. She is now in heaven. It hurts Mommy so much to think about that little girl's family. If I think too much, I start to cry. A lot of times that is when I need to give you a hug.
The thing is, Little Buddy, terrible things are, sadly, always going to happen. You'll read about things like Pearl Harbor and 9/11 and Columbine when you go to school. It can make you feel overwhelmed with sadness and disappointed in people. I read a quote this week from Mr. Rogers (you'll hopefully read about him, too, as you get older) that helped me.
“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother
would say to me, "Look for the helpers. You will always find people who
are helping.” ~Fred Rogers
What a beautiful thought. His mommy had the right idea. Any time something terrible happens, besides hearing of the tragedy, you also hear of the people who were brave and helped others. These people are heroes. I hope when you hear of terrible things in the future that you will look for the helpers. Moreso, I hope that you will always work to be a helper. It doesn't need to be in an extreme situation, either. If you see a friend that is sad, maybe you could cheer him up. If you see a classmate that is lonely, maybe you could invite her to play. Maybe if everyone was more concerned about helping each other, no one would have time to think about being mean to one another. It is never right to hurt people, with our actions or with our words. Remember that.
Maybe if people would have thought more about being helpers, another bad thing could have been stopped. You see, the other reason Mommy has been sad is because another man did a another bad thing and hurt a lot of children. Other people found out about it, but decided not to help. Maybe they were scared or unsure about what to do, but ultimately they did not help the children or stop the man from hurting the children. It is never right to hurt people, with our actions or with our words or with our inactions. Remember that too. We have to be helpers. We have to stand up for what is right.
And we have to know when to ask for help. This is very important, Little Buddy, so listen closely. You can talk to me about anything. Anything. Don't let anything or anyone ever prevent you from telling me something you think you should tell me. Ask me anything. Tell me anything. Or tell Daddy, or Uncle, or Grammy, or Mamaw, or Pop-Pop, or Papaw. We will always believe you. We will always value what you say as important. We will not judge you. We will help you. I promise you.
Sometimes being a Mommy is hard because you worry too much. I love you so much, Little Buddy, and all I want in the world is for you to be safe and happy and healthy. Right now, I can control a lot of that. But as you get older, I know there will be times you are not happy. That's ok. Just know that whenever you are unhappy, you can come to me. We can talk if you want. Or I can just listen. Or I can just sit with you until you feel better. Or we can go do something together that does make you happy. Just know that I will always be there for you. I will help you in whatever way you need me to help you.
There will be times, I'm certain, that you are not happy with me. That's ok, too. It might result from my desire to keep you safe. Just know now that when we get to the time where we have rules about driving and curfew and such, those rules aren't there because I don't trust you. They are there because I don't trust all the other people out there to value your safety as much as I do. Please promise me that you'll take care of yourself and that you'll value your safety too by making good choices. You do that and I will promise you that I will try not to be too over-protective. Deal?
Even with the recent tragedies, you have managed to keep me aware of how much joy and hope there is in the world. Whether it is when you rock your "baby" to sleep or when you say hello to a horsey..
...you help me to appreciate every day. You are my biggest helper! Thank you for giving me so much happiness. I love you.
Love you always,
Your Mommy
LBM
Little Buddy's Momma